Do you know who your friends are?
Be careful before you answer that.
Think long and hard and ask these questions of your self and of your so called friends.
- Are they always there for you as you have been for them?
- Are they always honest and forthright?
- What motivates you friendship? Mutual respect or convenience?
- When the chips are down are they certain to be there helping you?
During a roller coaster ride of a working life I have seen, and been integral to, some moderate success. I have been pestered by recruitment consultants who have swarmed all over me like flies on a hot cow pat. I have met some of the sweetest and kindest of individuals and I have met others who would make Lucifer’s skin crawl. Despicable creatures who lie, manipulate and deceive their way through life with one central focus, one overriding concern - their own pathetic and worthless skin. Their own shallow egos are all that matters with truth, honesty and decency the forged credit cards that they use to trade their way. True friendship is an alien concept to them. Honour and integrity are but hollow words that they can't comprehend let alone pronounce. They are the drains at the bottom of your tea cup, the hole in your favourite shoe, the unpleasant stain on your suit, the dog mess that clings to your instep. They are the dregs of humanity and are as unworthy to be called human as they are friend.
Out of the many people that I have met and liked and got on with, discounting the life long friends that I have, there are only a small portion who have, on a number of occasions, proven to be stalwart-true-blue friends.
For me a friend isn't simply someone who phones each and every hour to see that you are alright, although I am not discounting someone who does, but rather is someone, who when the shit hits the fan, proves there worth by, without asking for praise, gets arm pit deep in the mess and helps to get you out of it.
Friendship is such a valuable gift, and one worth caring for, but make sure that the individual that you select to call friend truly fulfils that definition and isn't there just because it suits them.
Friendship, to paraphrase and old advert, isn't just for Christmas, it is for life.
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